Hey,
Boss…
Telling your workplace you’re
pregnant
By Tash
Hughes of
Word Constructions
The test was
positive and you were excited; it’s been hard not
telling the world that you are going to have a baby.
Perhaps you
choose to keep it quiet, at least in some areas of your
life, for the first thirteen or so weeks. Or just long
enough to tell the Grandparents and close friends first.
Whether it’s
thirteen weeks later, or you’ve just found out, telling
your Boss the good news is often a daunting task.
With your Boss,
there’s not just the personal level as your Boss still
needs your job done and will wonder about your maternity
leave and coping without you, and so on. And, maybe, the
relationship is very formal so personal topics are hard
to raise. Or any number of other factors comes into play
to make it awkward to tell your boss.
Regardless of
the relationship you have with your Boss, consider the
following points:
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Tell your Manager
before you announce it to other work colleagues; it’s
courteous and respectful to so. Any close friends at
work may be told earlier, but only if they are able to
keep a secret!
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Tell him or her
privately and when you are both free to sit and talk for
five or ten minutes; ideally, divert phones or sit away
from your desks to have your chat.
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Choose your timing. If
a major job is due tomorrow, wait for the next day;
don’t try and tell minutes before your Boss is due in a
meeting or to leave for home.
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If you are at all
concerned about the response, do some research first.
Find out what the company policies are on maternity
leave and know the safety aspects of pregnancy in
relation to your duties, as well as any legal
requirements in your state and industry.
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Consider your options
and desires before hand so you can tell your Boss
whether you plan to return to work, and when. You are
free to change your mind later, but give your boss the
chance to start planning for your absence.
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Tell your boss before
it becomes obvious! This may give you more or less time
in which to do it, but don’t let you boss have to ask if
you’ve just put on weight …
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Many people wait until
after the first trimester (at about 13 or 14 weeks) so
there is less miscarriage risk. However, if you can’t
wait, that’s fine to tell work sooner. Consider, too,
that if you are having problems with morning sickness or
need a change in duties, you may be best to tell earlier
than 13 weeks.
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Be prepared to ask
about part time and work-from options for after baby’s
arrival – or even beforehand – if you want to keep your
job. Not all jobs suit such arrangements, but it may be
worth asking the question if it matters to you.
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Negotiate different
conditions if necessary. When I was heavily pregnant in
summer, I worked to seven at night as the office was air
conditioned and I was more comfortable there and I then
took some long lunch breaks for a nap instead.
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If there are other
expectant or new Mums in the company (or department for
a bigger place,) you could always ask them about how
their news was received – and how they did it! Of
course, this may result in some people knowing before
your Boss, so be discrete with who you ask!
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Wait until after a job
or salary review if one is imminent – then no one can
associate the two, deliberately or otherwise. Of course,
be careful about future plans made in such a review …
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If possible, announce
it just after completing a major job or some other
achievement as this demonstrates you are still focusing
on work which may be a concern for your Boss.
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Depending on
circumstances, you may wish to confirm agreements from
the meeting in writing afterwards. Include such details
as changed responsibilities, duties or hours as well as
anticipated leave arrangements. Ensure a copy of the
memo/letter goes in your personnel file.
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If there are doubts or
concerns, talk to your Doctor or midwife first so you
know where you stand medically before needing to discuss
this with your Boss.
Of course, some
people find it easy to talk to their Boss, and want a
different approach for fun!
The following
list includes some fun ways of sharing your news …
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Have a coffee and tell
him/her in a casual format
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Pull out building plans
to determine where the crèche will fit or reorganise
your work area to fit in a cot!
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Write a formal memo,
using obscure wording to announce the news
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Fill in a leave
application for 12 months leave in nine months’ time and
see how long it takes for him/her to register the times
involved
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Let your Boss find you
scribbling with crayons at your desk – then explain
you’re practising for your new role!
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Ask him/her little
questions over a period of time until the penny drops
(eg “do you prefer John or Tom?” “is lemon or lime a
better neutral colour?” or “I’m thinking of learning to
knit”)
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If your boss is a
parent, start asking lots of questions about when the
kids did certain things, how they made decisions, where
the baby was born, and so forth.
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You could ask “Do you
want the good news {pregnant} or the bad news {I’m
leaving} first?” and take it from there
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Set up a little chair
beside your desk as “you’re working for two now”
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Wear or place on your
desk a Learner sign – although this may be less relevant
if you already have a child at home!
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Send him/her a teddy
bear from “someone looking forward to meeting Mummy’s
Boss in seven months”
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If it is close to a
particular event like Christmas, his/her birthday or
Boss’s Day, send a card or email from the baby – or just
from you as usual but sign it from you and Baby.
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Send a memo or email
requesting s/he plans no meetings or deadlines for you
on a given date as you have major plans that day
And remember
that not everyone is as excited as you about your baby.
If your Boss isn’t particularly positive, that’s his or
her choice and needn’t stop YOU enjoying the fact you’re
pregnant!
Tash Hughes is
the owner of
Word Constructions and assists businesses in
preparing all written documentation and web site
content. Tash also writes parenting and business
articles for inclusion in newsletter and web sites.
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